Sometimes a parent just knows.
My husband demanded I hang up on the advice nurse:
“It doesn’t matter what she says, we’re going.”
My mom later told me she had never seen my husband move so fast.
We rushed our 9-month-old, Aaron, to the emergency room for high fever and extreme lethargy. Our rush ended when we hit unexpected traffic from a weekend festival. I sat in the back of the van with Aaron, listening to his breathing slow.
I tried not to cry, but I couldn’t help it.
“I need to pray.”
I leaned over Aaron and just before I shut my eyes, I saw my husband’s arm snake around the driver’s seat to reach me in the back. He held my hand tight and prayer flowed through us, incomprehensible, but given to God in the form of “please,” and “live,” and “not again.”
“Andy, I don’t know…. I don’t like this.”
“It’s really bad, he’s just… not right. This isn’t right.”
“Pull over. We have to call an ambulance.”
My husband pointed out that an ambulance wouldn’t actually get us there much faster.
“Yes, but they have things. Oxygen. Skills. CPR.”
He readily agreed.
When the ambulance arrived and the EMT let me ride in the back with Aaron, I knew Aaron would be okay.
Before that, during the drive, I knew God’s will would be done. Sometimes, though, that doesn’t bring the comfort one might expect. I know firsthand that God’s way is not always my way. That sometimes the path God has for us in this world is painful and full of sorrow. And that sometimes, the EMT won’t let you in the back of the ambulance, and that in those times, you don’t take your son home four hours later.
And that’s where my mind was as we sat in bumper-to-bumper traffic and I listened to Aaron’s ragged breath and watched his eyes glaze. As I put my cool forehead against his hot one and tried to get him to focus on me, to smile, and got nothing in return.
But when we waited on the street corner for the ambulance to arrive, the cool air blowing his hair, Aaron looked around. Smiled a little. Was aware enough to question where we were. He would be fine.
Later: a catheter, a blood draw, a failed IV. My back burned from holding Aaron down while the doctors and nurses did various things to prove him healthy. We ate horrible sandwiches and gave Aaron hospital formula that made him spit up for the next 24 hours. It was miserable.
But to hold those 24 hours, now going on 48, is a beautiful thing.
The first time, the time I didn’t get to ride in the ambulance, there was no blood draw. No catheter or failed IV. We followed from behind and noticed that after the first few blocks, the ambulance turned the siren off. Then the lights. Because there would be no 24- or 48-hours later. Just prayers and pleading. Our pastor looking at me with fear and defeat: “There’s nothing I can do.” This 6’5 man of God, ebony-skinned and deep voiced, stepping back and spreading his weighty but empty hands: “You can’t ask. There’s nothing to be done.”
But this time, just two short days ago, I came home with a stunningly robust 25-pound nine-month-old squirming in my arms. I sat him down and he played, ankle bracelet and gauze still in place. A little fussy, slightly worse for the wear, but breathing. Healthy. Alive.
So no, things don’t always go my way. But faith is not a crutch and life is not always easy. And right now, Aaron is napping. His sister is playing at Grandma’s and his big brother is somewhere doing big brother things. I will gladly take their health and happiness and tantrums and tensions. Even ambulance rides to the ER. Because at the end of the day, I am confident that these three will always come back home. Perhaps a bit beaten and bloody, but alive.
Sometimes a parent just knows.
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I can only imagine what you went through on that trip to the hospital. So glad that your precious Aaron is OK. Thanks be to God.
Thank you, Jen! Yes, Aaron is happily drinking a bottle and watching baseball with his Daddy. 🙂
Thank you for sharing this incredible testimony to power of faith and healing. This is my first time ever to your blog and I felt compelled to add a comment because of the feeling that came over me: what you described having happened to your precious boy sounds so much like a latent response from a life-altering vaccine reaction my own son had, which no doctor initially identified as the VAERS reaction that it turned out to be since it was 3 weeks after the inoculations. God bless you and continue to keep you all safe and out of harm’s way.
Marie, thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment. You said the response your son had to the vaccine was life-altering – I don’t know what happened, but I am so sorry to hear this. I hope he is doing well, and that you and your family are recovering. May God bless you and yours.
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Prayers for your family, Jamie, and of thanksgiving for all God has done.
Thank you, Tim!
I am so glad Aaron is ok… And so glad your Mama’s heart had time to process through writing.
Thanks, Lesley. I feel so blessed to have friends who know and understand the need to process through words! My heart is much, much lighter now.
I am so sorry, Jamie… Oh my goodness… ❤
Thanks, Janna. We are so happy that all is well now with Aaron! We are also glad that we have been given this reminder of what is truly important in life.
I am so sorry… Oh my goodness. ❤
Murmuring prayers of relief and praise with you, my friend.
Thanks, Bronwyn. As Glennon would say, it’s a brutiful life.